Stress Management & Idols

We all inadvertently have idols that we worship. These idols can consist of objects of desire such as a particular type of car, a big house, a handsome or beautiful partner and maybe even celebrity pop star. The old saying that the grass always seems greener on the other side has an familiar ring to it. Humans can become slaves to there desires and obsessions, even people that appear outwardly content have deep seated desires that become there goal in life. These desires or idols do not necessarily have to be an object or person. They can be the desire for emotional and social approval, a person may feel the need to seek the approval of their parents, partner, children and friends. Or may be they wish to be acknowledged as being a perfectionist or even being a rebel. These idols originate from social and childhood experiences and can cause an individual extreme stress.

In most people these idols do not become the focus of their lives but just a mere ambition. However, there are those amongst us that literally worship our idols. I define worship as an object that one strives to be closer to and brings that person emotional worthiness. For instance many people worship pop stars such as madonna. They have surpassed the stage of being a fan to a person that can revolve there lives around her life experiences. It is not unheard of that people commit suicide when a film star or pop star dies. It is important to realize when a person or your self are in this stage and act accordingly. The classic example is that of a man or woman who rejects many partners as they do not fit into there image of a ideal man or woman. They go through the whole of their lives comparing each partner to this model or idol they want so badly.

It is imperative that you must use the reframing technique with these people. In some cases just explaining the logic behind there obsession will be enough to discourage them from such an obsessions. However, others may have such longstanding and deep issues that originate from there childhood that may take much longer to solve. In essence you must seek the underling root issue of this obsession. For example if a person is working day and night, trying to be perfect at cooking, socializing and appearance but are always stressed. The person in question may have a need to become an equal or better than either there mother or father.

If you are in any doubt about you stress or a friends stress levels, please seek help from a professional.

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